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Co-Parenting & Creating Memories for the Kids over the Summer when Divorced

By Karen Stewart

Super Dad with DaughterSummer is soon upon us and that comes with challenges to keep kids happy and active over the summer.  For divorced parents, this may present additional challenges requiring some thought and consideration before making decisions that will impact not only you but the kids and your ex. First and foremost, remember the kids comes first.

When parents are not getting along and seem unable to make decisions or arrangements for summer, children are exposed to conflict and a summer of good memories can easily turn bad causing negative feelings and undue stress for the children.  Even in the best of situations, children worry even if they don’t tell you.  The focus should be on minimizing stress for your children at all times.

While summer schedules usually differ from the rest of the year, it’s important the lives of the children remain as consistent as possible. Think about what summer activities your children have done in the past. Respect your children’s’ interests and allow older children and teens to have input in the summer planning.  Learn how your children want to spend their time with each parent.

Typically parenting arrangements will be very different over the summer. Changes may include extending time with one parent because the distance between homes has prevented equal sharing time during the rest of the year, or longer periods with each parent to accommodate summer vacations.

Remember the quality of time is more important than quantity of time and consider what time frame will best allow your children to have a positive, stress-free visit.  Parents that plan and want their children to have a positive summer vacation, go a long way to helping their children have a healthy and happy childhood.  Allow summer to grow your children’s experiences and memories with both parents.

As the parent keep your feelings away from your children and have a trusted friend or person to talk to.  If you are bothered by your former partner, don’t share this with your children.  Instead, encourage your children to have fun with the other parent to avoid having your children feeling guilty. Children may be reluctant to spend time with the other parent if they think it’s going to leave a parent feeling bad.  Remind your children you are happy they can experience fun summer activities regardless of who they are with.

If you feel your children could benefit from having a parenting plan in place or the current plan requires a review, please contact Fairway Divorce Solutions to arrange for a consultation.