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Spring Cleaning, your house and your life after Divorce

By Karen Stewart

Taping a Box

Spring Cleaning! It’s that time of year when thousands of people rummage through their homes and purge their belongings to make room for a fresh new season. By de-cluttering and giving your sanctuary an annual facelift, you can rejuvenate and refresh your heart and mind, especially when spring cleaning after your divorce.

If you have recently experienced a divorce, what do you do with what remains from your ex-spouse? For instance, items packed away under the crawlspace, in storage or your photo drawer? Is it appropriate to still wear that piece of jewellery that was bought for you from your ex?

It may not be clear to an outsider (or even to the individual at the time) that any of these items still hold sentimental value; however, they can bring back painful memories of a time that used to be, creating a barrier for moving forward.

Spring Cleaning After Your Divorce

I am an advocate of the purge. De-cluttering your house and your mind will help your heart heal. Getting rid of unnecessary clutter can free you of the barriers and hurdles of emotional attachment that can drag you down months after your divorce is finalized.

When you are ready to rip the band-aid off and rid of your emotional attachment to these belongings, do it in a pragmatic way that will benefit your future healing.

Ways to Help You:

Kijiji, Craigslist, or Pawn Shops – an excellent resource to make a little cash from your past. If you are storing jewellery or any items of actual value over and above sentimental value, use it to your financial advantage.

Burn it all! — this is said with humour in mind. However, if there is little financial value to what you are holding onto, then why not? You will feel the weight lifted, and your shoulders can fall with a sense of relief and contentment. It’s like an episode of “Friends” or possibly the movie “Waiting to Exhale,” but always keep a fire extinguisher near!

Salvation Army — give the remains of your marriage or relationship to someone that may benefit from your purge. By doing good and helping others in need, you may feel the purge was most beneficial to building your character and peace of mind.

Garage Sale — with Spring comes the arrival of garage sales. Get together with some follow divorcees in your community or circle of friends and hold a “New Beginnings Garage Sale.” Have fun with it as it is a way you can celebrate your future path with your friends while making a little cash. If you don’t want to host your past on your lawn, Facebook has an online marketplace that can act as a garage sale without taking away your whole weekend.

Give it to your kids — if you do have jewellery that has sentimental value and you have children together, why not give that expensive piece of your past to your future? Let your children carry with them something that reminds them of both of you. (This would only be advised in an amicable divorce where the children harbour little to no resentment towards either parent)

Spring is the perfect time to cleanse your home, your heart, your mind and your soul of any past relationship memorabilia so you can live in the present.