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Coping with Divorce

By Karen Stewart

Happy Mom and DaughterDivorce itself is not bad!

How we interpret it and how it plays out in our lives is what makes it worse.

When we hear the word “Divorce” we tend to have visions of tears, heartache, fighting, financial loss and children suffering.

Decades ago only a small percentage of the population was getting divorced and we had no problem compartmentalizing them into a small unlikely group of parents and kids. Them vs. us! “What goes on behind closed doors” is not our problem, was a common belief. We were quick to label this unfortunate group and their children in derogatory ways. We even went as far as to blame bad behaviour on “the broken home.”

Thank goodness, we are avoiding many of these clichés today but we still have a long way to go. Let’s start by changing how we “cope with divorce” to “how we can embrace the lessons of divorce.”

Let’s start here:

  • Divorce does not define you: how you move through it will.
  • Divorce is not bad – by nature, it is neutral.
  • Divorce is only one experience of your lifetime, so do not let it create a lifetime legacy.