In late June, Fairway’s CEO Karen Stewart and one of our Senior Negotiators attended the Law Society of Alberta’s Family Law Secrets Exposed Super Conference. This full day conference was loaded with information regarding new techniques to resolve complex family law problems from international leading experts.
Andrew Allentuck recently wrote an article titled Divorced and Anxious at 59. He begins the article, writing, “In Alberta, a woman we’ll call Adele, 59, is adjusting to independent life after her divorce last year” and continues to give detail to her circumstances which include her career, children, property, assets, investments etc.
For this instalment of the Getting Things Done blogs, I wanted to focus on a section from Chapter 14 of the book which rings true not only in my own day to day life but also in the process of going through and moving on from a divorce. David Allen touches briefly on goals and four points in which organizational psychologists are using to evaluate the resourceful state of workers. Allen notes that goals, or desired outcomes, are a vital part of life. The four points he mentions are as follows: Self-Efficacy, Optimism, Hope and Resilience.
Most children are familiar with the Cinderella story about a girl whose evil step-mother restricts her from attending the Royal Ball; the heartless queen who casts Snow White to the forest to be murdered because she was claimed as the fairest in the land; or Mother Gothel from Tangled who maliciously suckled Rapunzel’s youth.
In order to constantly improve and move forward, the Fairway Divorce Team has been reading David Allen’s text, Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. Allen’s methods for stress-free performance at work and in life have influenced our business extremely; we now follow his model in every aspect of our business. In fact, his teachings have had such a large impact on us that we have even decided to create a blog series connecting his methods to moving through a stress free divorce by being productive. Each member of our team will write a blog sharing his or her thoughts on Allen’s methods and how they are related to divorce.
Over the weekend myself and a group of friends decided to go camping outside of Invermere in British Columbia. We have been going there as a big group for the past two years now because the spot can hold that many tents and the area is secluded enough for all of our dogs to be dogs off leash. It is the perfect playground for them to enjoy; the dogs were chasing each other up and down the hill that sat beside our site, they followed the men into the bush and helped drag back wood for the fire, and they sniffed every tree that we passed on our hikes. At night we attached glow sticks to our two dogs in order to see them in the dark. The glowsticks helped us a lot to know where they were, otherwise they would blend into the sheet of darkness.
Five ways to help your children with this critical transition
Welcome to the 21st century; where you can find love online and then serve them with divorce papers in the same manner.
I work with many couples that support each other’s parenting style and strive very hard to ensure that their divorce does not negatively impact their ability to co-parent. These people will go out of their way to ensure that both Mother’s and Father’s Day is a sacred day for thanking each other and ensuring the children in turn do the same. For these couples it is pretty easy and also a non negotiable.