Five ways to help your children with this critical transition
Welcome to the 21st century; where you can find love online and then serve them with divorce papers in the same manner.
I work with many couples that support each other’s parenting style and strive very hard to ensure that their divorce does not negatively impact their ability to co-parent. These people will go out of their way to ensure that both Mother’s and Father’s Day is a sacred day for thanking each other and ensuring the children in turn do the same. For these couples it is pretty easy and also a non negotiable.
30% of Ontario children will experience their parent’s divorce before the age of 18. That means that 1/3 of our children will be living in different houses, usually sharing time between Mom’s house and Dad’s house. Whether you have a shared or equal division of time with your children, holidays can present an interesting challenge when dealing with separation and divorce.
Choosing to divorce is a difficult decision. The next step following the decision to divorce has a few paths that you can follow; you can go directly to a lawyer, mediation, do it yourself or to Fairway Divorce Solutions to work with the financial experts of divorce.
The thing about divorce is that for most people, it shakes them to the core. Everything they thought their life was going to be has suddenly changed. It feels as if the carpet has been pulled out from under them and, as a result, everyone feels a real loss of control - about their entire life! Your financial future has uncertainty, you might be facing a move, a change in jobs or re-entering the work force after years of being home caring for children. It’s no wonder people grasp to regain ‘control’.
With Ontario’s divorce rates for 1st marriages at close to 40% and 2nd marriages at closer to 60%, the housing market is one of the first to experience the impact of divorce. Most marriages involve a matrimonial home; some even have rental properties and cottages. And many times the sale of the family home is part of the financial reconciliation.
Spring Break is upon us and with tens of thousands of Ontario students out of school for a week (or two), there is an excited energy out there. Airports will soon be overloaded with holiday travelers seeking to escape the winter weather.
When you are going through a divorce and there is a family home to divide or possibly sell — this can be a very emotional decision.
Divorce is one of the most difficult life experiences you could face in your lifetime. With all the emotions revolving around children, lost love and finances, it is hard to keep emotions out of your decision-making.