The initial reaction for most people starting out on the path to divorce, is to hire a “really good lawyer” Obtaining a lawyer, however, is not the only option or, even needed, right out of the starting gate. There are a number of alternatives that you can research, and see what the best fit is for you, your partner and your case.
In most divorce cases, there will always be the “he said” and “she said” grievances to the mediator. As a result, the argument will usually continue and prolong the process that both parties likely want completed sooner than later.
For some, the path of divorce is uncharted territory. In addition to being a newbie to divorce, there is a lot of information that varies from case-to-case as well as law-to-law on a number of spectrums. Financial regulations as well as legal regulations play large roles when defining the outcome of a divorce. At Fairway, one of the most popular questions we receive from clients is regarding the financial disclosure portion of a divorce.
The phrase Life After Divorce seems to roll off the tongue. This euphonic phrase doesn’t seem accurate when considering the connotation of how divorce is defined. There is, however, a connection between how Life After Divorce rolls off the tongue and how this phrase is defined. Life After Divorce is a phase in your life where you reconnect with your core-self; divorce demands this. You roll onto a clear road to a new life with yourself. This may seem scary but the fork in the road gives you the opportunity to accept it or fight it. I encourage you to not only accept it, but also embrace it. When you do, there is a solace and pride that overpowers your grief.
In late June, Fairway’s CEO Karen Stewart and one of our Senior Negotiators attended the Law Society of Alberta’s Family Law Secrets Exposed Super Conference. This full day conference was loaded with information regarding new techniques to resolve complex family law problems from international leading experts.
Andrew Allentuck recently wrote an article titled Divorced and Anxious at 59. He begins the article, writing, “In Alberta, a woman we’ll call Adele, 59, is adjusting to independent life after her divorce last year” and continues to give detail to her circumstances which include her career, children, property, assets, investments etc.
For this instalment of the Getting Things Done blogs, I wanted to focus on a section from Chapter 14 of the book which rings true not only in my own day to day life but also in the process of going through and moving on from a divorce. David Allen touches briefly on goals and four points in which organizational psychologists are using to evaluate the resourceful state of workers. Allen notes that goals, or desired outcomes, are a vital part of life. The four points he mentions are as follows: Self-Efficacy, Optimism, Hope and Resilience.
Most children are familiar with the Cinderella story about a girl whose evil step-mother restricts her from attending the Royal Ball; the heartless queen who casts Snow White to the forest to be murdered because she was claimed as the fairest in the land; or Mother Gothel from Tangled who maliciously suckled Rapunzel’s youth.
In order to constantly improve and move forward, the Fairway Divorce Team has been reading David Allen’s text, Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. Allen’s methods for stress-free performance at work and in life have influenced our business extremely; we now follow his model in every aspect of our business. In fact, his teachings have had such a large impact on us that we have even decided to create a blog series connecting his methods to moving through a stress free divorce by being productive. Each member of our team will write a blog sharing his or her thoughts on Allen’s methods and how they are related to divorce.