Most children are familiar with the Cinderella story about a girl whose evil step-mother restricts her from attending the Royal Ball; the heartless queen who casts Snow White to the forest to be murdered because she was claimed as the fairest in the land; or Mother Gothel from Tangled who maliciously suckled Rapunzel’s youth.
In order to constantly improve and move forward, the Fairway Divorce Team has been reading David Allen’s text, Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. Allen’s methods for stress-free performance at work and in life have influenced our business extremely; we now follow his model in every aspect of our business. In fact, his teachings have had such a large impact on us that we have even decided to create a blog series connecting his methods to moving through a stress free divorce by being productive. Each member of our team will write a blog sharing his or her thoughts on Allen’s methods and how they are related to divorce.
Over the weekend myself and a group of friends decided to go camping outside of Invermere in British Columbia. We have been going there as a big group for the past two years now because the spot can hold that many tents and the area is secluded enough for all of our dogs to be dogs off leash. It is the perfect playground for them to enjoy; the dogs were chasing each other up and down the hill that sat beside our site, they followed the men into the bush and helped drag back wood for the fire, and they sniffed every tree that we passed on our hikes. At night we attached glow sticks to our two dogs in order to see them in the dark. The glowsticks helped us a lot to know where they were, otherwise they would blend into the sheet of darkness.
Five ways to help your children with this critical transition
Welcome to the 21st century; where you can find love online and then serve them with divorce papers in the same manner.
I work with many couples that support each other’s parenting style and strive very hard to ensure that their divorce does not negatively impact their ability to co-parent. These people will go out of their way to ensure that both Mother’s and Father’s Day is a sacred day for thanking each other and ensuring the children in turn do the same. For these couples it is pretty easy and also a non negotiable.
At Fairway Divorce Solutions, we are constantly encouraged to obtain more education that helps us advance as the leading experts in our field. I recently attended the Child-Centred Continuum Seminar and believe that a lot of the topics mentioned in the seminar should be shared publicly. One of the questions that was brought to our attention was:
30% of Ontario children will experience their parent’s divorce before the age of 18. That means that 1/3 of our children will be living in different houses, usually sharing time between Mom’s house and Dad’s house. Whether you have a shared or equal division of time with your children, holidays can present an interesting challenge when dealing with separation and divorce.
Choosing to divorce is a difficult decision. The next step following the decision to divorce has a few paths that you can follow; you can go directly to a lawyer, mediation, do it yourself or to Fairway Divorce Solutions to work with the financial experts of divorce.
The thing about divorce is that for most people, it shakes them to the core. Everything they thought their life was going to be has suddenly changed. It feels as if the carpet has been pulled out from under them and, as a result, everyone feels a real loss of control - about their entire life! Your financial future has uncertainty, you might be facing a move, a change in jobs or re-entering the work force after years of being home caring for children. It’s no wonder people grasp to regain ‘control’.