Posted by: kstewart in Seasonal on
Jan 22, 2008
With Valentine's Day right around the corner, it can be particularly difficult for those going through divorce or just recently divorced. Likely, our friends that are in relationships are busy ordering flowers, making dinner reservations and planning that special day to share with their spouse or significant other. February 14 is coming and while we may want to pretend it does not exist - all the reminders in the malls, stores, ads on TV and news print - smack us right in the face. As you know, I enjoy redefining how we see things by altering our perspectives to find hope and excitement with new beginnings, especially when it comes to divorce. So bring it on -- Valentine's Day.
Posted by: kstewart in Seasonal on
Dec 13, 2007
The festive holidays are here and it can be a merry one, even for those of you going through a divorce. These are the times to step away from your turbulent path and embrace the festivities with those you love-your children, your family, your friends and, most of all, yourself.
Below you will find simple steps to ensure that you survive the holidays with grace, delight and peace.
- With Family
Keep children top of mind. If you have them, make it a happy, joyous occasion with a big smile on your face. They have likely been through enough, just like you, but build this time just for them.
- Begin New Traditions
Rather than participating in traditions that took place prior to your divorce, come up with new ideas! Enjoy turkey and all the trimmings with family and friends; or perhaps take the children on a road trip or mini-holiday; volunteer at a local homeless shelter; or craft a creative gift treasure hunt in your house or backyard. Whatever you decide, bring forth anticipation and excitement for your children.
It is important that you keep your mind and time occupied because, out of the blue, you could be overwhelmed with emotion-it is Christmas after all-and anyone in pain finds it a difficult time.
b. Perform a Family Play - One year, the kids and I did a family play that I found on the Internet and we went around all Christmas day to friends' homes and brought cheer and performed our 15 minute play. We had fun and our friends and family loved it. And guess what? I did not have time to wallow in my pain. It turned out to be a great day for all of us.