What Kind of Person Kidnaps their Child Away from their Ex?

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 18:40:59 +0100

Is there ever a good reason?

When it comes to these questions, it is sometimes very easy to judge and take a black and white position. Most would respond with “it is never OK” but what in the case where the system has failed to protect the child and the parent flees to protect the child from their worst fear – murder or murder suicide. We know that this happens and we know that in most of these cases there were signs and further that these signs were ignored by the court sy [...]

Marriage/Divorce or a very Smart Business Transaction?

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 18:37:11 +0100

Sorry to offend anyone but lets call a spade a spade!!

Elin “Woods” just made the best business deal of her life. Comparing it to a business deal might seem cold and aloof but really, when do you recall someone entering a business relationship that totally crashed after a few short years and one of the partners walks away with 750 million dollars. Seems that Harvard should have a new business specialty within their MBA program. Lets face it, Elin went thro [...]

Busy Week in Celebrity Divorce

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 18:34:42 +0100

Tiger Woods settles with Elin and Sandra and Jessie finalize their divorce.It seems that the big “D” is in Vogue these days.

It was not that long ago that celebrity divorces were kept quiet and pushed under the carpet. So what happened that all of a sudden we have such an insatiable appetite for knowing the details of celebrity divorce? Perhaps Donald Trumps divorce from Ivana was the tipping point but where does it end – or does it? It would seem that w [...]

Listen, Watch and Depersonalize (LWD) - then decide if it is time for the Big D (Divorce)

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 22:00:49 +0100

If you wondering. Should I stay? Or should I go? Should I ----- should I? The best way to make a sound and grounded decision about your relationship is to use the LWD Approach.

Listen and Watch – this means really HEAR and SEE what the other person is doing or saying. If you happen to be in a verbally abusive relationship or just one where communication is not healthy then stop doing what you have always done in the past . Do whatever that [...]

Is Lack of Sex Grounds for Divorce?

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 18:00:34 +0100

In North America (at least almost all of North America) there is “no fault divorce”, which in laymen’s terms means that it does not matter what the reason is for the divorce and therefore the reason will not impact how assets are divided. So most lawyers would likely say that whether you had a great sex life or a non-existent one is irrelevant.

The other question however, is more emotional and speaks to whether having sexually intimacy in marriage is necessary for a marriag [...]

Can you still work together after you are divorced?

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 17:38:33 +0100

Some do it but can it last?

David Pelletier and Jamie Sale

Donald and Ivana Trump

There are many couples that work together and so when they divorce they are faced with an added complication. Who stays and who goes with regards to the business? In many cases the decision is obvious, especially if it is more dependent on one party than the other. Take for example a Medical practice, one spouse is the bookkeeper or office administrator and the other is a [...]

Al & Tipper Gore

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 17:35:27 +0100

Is it ever too late to pull the plug on a BAD marriage?

The questions “Is 40 years too long?” and “ Should you just stay?” were posed on a number of internet sites . That is not the correct question. The correct question is as posed above.

The answer is really quite simple.

IF you have done the internal work and you have come to the place where the union no longer is supporting the spiritual well being of the parties;

Mid Life Crisis = Divorce?

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 15:41:21 +0100

So many people have been extremely fortunate in that they have achieved what they set out to do in their careers. However, sometimes that can leave one feeling empty – with that nagging question of what is next? All to often, he or she feels a big void in their life. Is that it? Is that how achieving success feels? There has to be more, right?

I cannot tell you the number of divorcing couples that have a story like “We finally have everything and th [...]

Step Parents - Rights or No Rights?

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Tue, 25 May 2010 19:39:19 +0100

Step Parents – Rights or No Rights?

One famous person’s parental heartache has awakened new interest and opinions when it comes to the rights of stepparents. Sandra Bullock’s recent personal split has raised questions surrounding her custody and parental role of Jessie James’ biological children. While legal rights are likely far from a reality, what about the emotional rights and/or obligation to the children left behind?

Speaking from exper [...]

Do Divorced Parents Create Relationship-Phobic Children?

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Thu, 20 May 2010 21:32:02 +0100

The idea that the pain and frustration left after a divorce may somehow impact your child’s ability to have a healthy attitude towards relationship is a hard pill to swallow.   For most divorced parents, pondering the question is prudent. Unfortunately a large percentage of divorced couples lack the self-discipline required to remain closed-mouthed when is comes to matters involving an ex.   While it may seem natural to “vent” now and again, the results of this can b [...]

Divorce and Murder

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Tue, 18 May 2010 20:01:21 +0100
Does the present process of divorce provoke murder?
These are two words we do not want to think about together in the same sentence but unfortunately in too many cases this is the outcome. The question is, does the present process of divorce provoke murder? With over $1 million divorces in the United States each year and about 2 million marriages, we can no longer push divorce and the way society deals with divorce, under the carpet. Some say that there are now three things that [...]

Embrace Your Difficult Journeys

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 15:44:26 +0100
If you are getting divorced or know someone who is then…do not let them or yourself play the victim. Everything happens for a reason and believe it or not - just at the right time. Embrace the difficult journeys in your life and know with certainty that it is meant to be. Learn the lessons that the challenge presents so that you may grow and not repeat the same thing. You can handle everything that comes your way. Protect ruthlessly your optimism and self worth. Find something to be [...]

Enough Unnecessary Deaths!

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 22:57:30 +0100

Our system has failed!!! As you know Fairway Divorce Solutions® is working to change the way divorce happens but what happens in the meantime? I was just reading yet another article about a father who killed his children during the divorce proceedings. You all know, I am not gender biased as FDS supports both men and women equally. But unfortunately there are just too many unnecessary deaths of the innocent. This must change. Please help me keep families out of t [...]

Tips for Dealing with your Own Feelings About the Split

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 17:10:12 +0100

Ask yourself what it is that bothers you about it. Are you judging them or are you really empathetic to their pain? This is an opportunity to look at your own stuff and buttons (your shadow). If we attract everything to us then consider that you have attracted your friends/families divorce and there are learning’s for you too.
Try and not burden the divorcee with your pain about their divorce, after all they have enough to deal with and for you to add to it does not help the [...]

Things You Can Do to Help the Divorcee Cope and Move on in an Empowering Way

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 21:09:33 +0100

Encourage them to get help – everyone needs someone completely objective to talk to and a well qualified counselor will help them move through divorce faster and help avoid attracting the same situation all over again. They will repeat the pattern if they have not learned the lesson they were to learn.
Offer to do something fun with them. Get the girls or guys together to do something as a group.
Do not judge them or criticize them – they need loving non judgmental support.
Help the [...]

What to Say and What Not to Say to Someone Close to You Who is Getting a Divorce

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 16:25:28 +0100

Be supportive and “actively listen” - I mean really “hear” what he/she is saying.

Try and move them out of victim mode. Do this by encouraging them to find the leanings for themselves and reflecting back to them what they have said.
Don’t tell them that you saw their ex out with someone else.
Encourage them to stay focused on themselves and not the other party. This is much easier said then done but very important for personal growth.
Reflect back to them what you hear [...]

KidsEmpowerment.com/org

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 20:27:47 +0100

I am so excited!!!!!!

I have started a new organization called kidsempowerment.com/org. This is a charity/organization that is going to help kids who have been victims of abuse/violence.   After working with so many families going through divorce and often just life - I am often shocked at how little care some parents have for the emotional abuse they put their children through. There seems very little regard (not intentionally of course) for the impact their actions o [...]

The Path to Higher Consciousness is Not a Painless Experience

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 17:45:40 +0100

“It used to be that we thought we had to fall in love in order to commit to a person. Is it not possible that we commit to loving and the journey that this love takes us on? The former is a journey of fantasy and karma; the later the journey of co-creation and transformation”

Tanis Helliwell

I read this today and I think this woman is brilliant. Some times ending a relationship is in our highest best interest because our journey together has served its p [...]

Q & A BLOG: 40+ Divorcees

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 22:57:04 +0100
Dear Divorce Guru,

I'm curious whether the cost of divorce is rising for men and women in their 40s and 50s. Are there newer laws in certain states requiring couples to file separately, thereby driving up costs? Or are men or women getting a larger share of the others' assets upon divorce? Anything changing over the past couple of years or so would be great to know.

Signed: Curious

Dear Curious,

The cost for divorce is rising substantially parti [...]

Staying Relentlessly Focused on the Positive Vision

karen@fairwaydivorce.com — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 22:36:33 +0100

We know that the most powerful tool in manifesting our dreams and goals is to have a clear vision of what we want. Our painted picture of what we want “it” whatever ”it” may be – to look like.   It is really that simple --- being relentless about the outcome and trusting that you will get there….but having the fortitude and grounding to give up on controlling the ‘How.’

This has been my personal mantra and it has made my life a lot easier.   It will hel [...]

Blog Entries

What Kind of Person Kidnaps their Child Away from their Ex?

Marriage/Divorce or a very Smart Business Transaction?

Busy Week in Celebrity Divorce

Listen, Watch and Depersonalize (LWD) - then decide if it is time for the Big D (Divorce)

Is Lack of Sex Grounds for Divorce?

Can you still work together after you are divorced?

Al & Tipper Gore

Mid Life Crisis = Divorce?

Step Parents - Rights or No Rights?

Do Divorced Parents Create Relationship-Phobic Children?

Divorce and Murder

Embrace Your Difficult Journeys

Enough Unnecessary Deaths!

Tips for Dealing with your Own Feelings About the Split

Things You Can Do to Help the Divorcee Cope and Move on in an Empowering Way

What to Say and What Not to Say to Someone Close to You Who is Getting a Divorce

KidsEmpowerment.com/org

The Path to Higher Consciousness is Not a Painless Experience

Q & A BLOG: 40+ Divorcees

Staying Relentlessly Focused on the Positive Vision