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Let Go and Trust

Posted by: kstewart in Untagged on Sep 10, 2010

I often get asked questions like “My ex is crazy, she/he is a psycho, has borderline personality disorder and will not abide by the court order. I am at my wits end and I do not know what to do. I am getting eaten up inside...” or something similar to this. The bottom line is: this is hurting the kids. I will respond to them but he or she may not like what I have to say. Sometimes the truth sucks.

Contracts are only as good as the people behind them so if you are dealing with a borderline personality or a psycho - forget it. Your ex will do what he/she sees fit.

From the ex’s perspective you could be considered evil and he/she feels they are right and that will never change. The only solution is to stay focused on where you are going and give your children everything you can when you are together. Be their cheerleader and never burden a child with this. You must change your perspective. That is all you can do and to think either she will change or the system will fix it is not productive. Unfortunately, those thoughts will eat you alive. Let go and trust! While you do not want to hear this, your only enemy is your thoughts. Do not give over your power to your ex. Enjoy the blessing of your new life and trust that over time your children will be blessed as well. At some level you attracted your ex as your children’s mother/father so allow the lessons that go with that to be learned as they are meant for their journey.

If I sound like a preacher, I apologize, but I have such certainty around these things as I have witnessed so much.

Love and Wisdom

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