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Does how you Choose to Move Through Divorce Affect the Rest of your Life?

Posted by: kstewart in Untagged on Apr 6, 2009

Life after divorce/separation

The answer is YES! When you are facing life’s challenges, divorce being one of them, we can either play the victim or take 100% responsibility and be accountable. It is in your power to choose.

Playing the victim and laying the foundation for a disempowering future sounds like:
   • It is their fault
   • They did this to our family/life
   • We would not be here if it was not for what they did
   • He/she had an affair so what does that have to do with me – they did it to me
   • I will never have enough money
   • The kids are now going to have to suffer and all because of him/he
   • I had no choice but to hire a tough attorney because I had to make sure my rights were taken care of
   • My friends and family warn me to get the best attorney I can or else….
   • He/she is going to try and destroy me
   • All my friends agree that he/she is a jerk and I am better off without them
   • My children are going to suffer big time – they will have less and therefore will not be as happy

Being accountable and laying the foundation for great future sounds like:
   • This is a challenging time in my life and I get that I am in control of how I react to the events that occur around me
   • I understand that even though my spouse may have hurt me by having an affair, or losing our money, or whatever the situation is, that I am 100% responsible for how I deal with the situation and therefore I have control of the outcome
   • I can create chaos by reacting and blaming which will lead to disempowered victimization OR I can be proactive and make well informed decisions
   • I am hurting and I am angry but I will not let my emotions play havoc with my decision making
   • While I perhaps did not have the affair, and I am certainly not responsible for it – I am responsible for how I deal with it and therefore I will focus on the learning’s in this for me so that I do not recreate the same outcome again in my life
   • My children are fortunate to have a well balanced parent who is going to be the best I can be through my divorce so that my children will to be   empowered and not label this as a negative but rather just part of life.
   • I will not attach negative emotional stinking thinking to my divorce or my life
   • I will surround myself with friends and family that are loving, realists and positive about my ability to move forward on my own
   • I will not hire an attorney --- so that I can win and he/she can lose
   • I will engage an alternative – either Fairway Divorce Solutions or some other alternative that focuses on a win-win fair outcome
   • I will take the time each day to focus on what I am grateful for
   • I will remind my children daily of how great they are and how lucky they are to have two parents who love them so much

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