Adversarial divorce does not achieve a win-win.
Posted by: kstewart in Untagged on
Dec 3, 2008
The high number of divorces today has created a fertile feeding ground for the legal profession, and while lawyers are certainly eating well, there are more losers than winners among the embattled participants.
Divorce has become lucrative for the legal community. Spurred on by ambitious legal beagles, they challenge each client's grant for child care and custody, division of property and assets, and ongoing financial support. By the time divorce is settled, the process is extremely adversarial. For most couples, court is a blunt instrument unable to deal elegantly with resolving the intricate, personal and emotional issues surrounding the dissolution of a relationship. Emotions run high and trust is low - a perfect combination for a fiery battle.
After waving big swords, the only obvious result of any battle is ashes. It is not a question of losing; it is a question of how much are you going to lose.
Divorce should not be about destroying the enemy; it should be about bringing a fair ending to a partnership and laying the foundation for both parties to move on. You do not have to fight to have a fair outcome. You do not need to destroy assets to get the piece of the pie that is rightfully yours. You can move through your divorce with confidence; you can make empowered decisions; you can keep your assets. You can do all this at a lower cost, without the fear and anxiety laden in the traditional system.
You can do all this by engaging alternative solutions to adversarial divorce, such as through Fairway Divorce Solutions®.
--Karen Stewart